To define the ego, it’s best to start with what it’s not; it’s not the body, but it can move the body; it’s not the spirit, but the spirit is aware of it, it’s not the soul, but the soul documents its deeds, it’s not the mind either, but it’s a product of the mind. All of the body, spirit, soul and mind can exist without an ego, but an ego cannot exist without them.
The ego is that which we believe we are, and the respect we believe that construct deserves. We grow into creating an ego for ourselves, and we can grow out of it; I say it will take one the same amount of time it took one to develop one to get one out of one, so being patient is key.
And of course, the journey is the aim, not the destination, for there is nothing at the destination; perhaps, there is no destination.
The absolute discipline of one’s ego will make one humble enough to embrace that reality, the reality that it is constantly still on that path. Hastiness to reach a destination might deprive one of the journey’s lessons.
The ego discipline therefore doesn’t mean a self that lacks respect for itself but one that checks itself when its pride comes fore to protect its ego in the face of touch.
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